Marriage game

Marriage Game A game that helps you better understand your relationship. With regular use, it guarantees understanding and closeness. If you’re curious about what’s happening in your relationship, want to better understand yourself and your partner, or feel it’s hard to communicate – THIS GAME IS MADE FOR YOU. The MARRIAGE GAME will help you: Name the problem – that’s already half the battle; Express it properly – without accusations directed at the other person, focusing on your own feelings and expectations; Not interrupt while speaking – which is very difficult for many; Stick to the topic – without hints, memories from years ago, or bouncing the ball back; Understand the other side – no interruptions allowed, only listening; See how you are perceived and how much you are understood by your partner, which can be surprising; Say something nice and positive – seemingly trivial, but hard when you don’t hear it; Flirt – something that used to happen a lot; Look at yourself and your relationship from a distance – which helps find the right solution; Make concrete resolutions – every conversation ends with a resolution accepted by both, a concrete step to improve and deepen the relationship. Game description The game contains 320 cards with the most commonly expressed partner expectations. 160 cards are for women, 160 for men. Expectations were collected from over 900 couples during communication and psychotherapy workshops led by trainers and psychotherapists. Cards are divided into 6 categories: Positives, Relationship, Sex, Children, Work, In-laws. The box also contains 5 blank cards for writing your own expectations and resolutions. Special Cards Additionally, the set includes 5 Special Cards to help conduct the conversation according to proper communication rules: Speaking Card, Check, Yes, but…, Speak for Yourself, Let Me Feel. Speaking Card – the person holding this card has the right to speak and decides when to pass it to the other. During this time, the other cannot speak, comment, or add. Breaking this rule leads to agreed consequences. Check – the person passing the Speaking Card can check if they were understood by showing the Check card. The other must then paraphrase the last statement. Without agreeing on the meaning, they cannot proceed or express their opinion. The Check card can be used anytime you feel misunderstood. Yes, but… – the listener shows this card if the speaker changes the topic or justifies, e.g., the wife says she’s tired caring for children, and the husband replies, “Yes, but I earn money and I’m tired too.” These are two different issues, and this way spouses don’t reach agreement. When shown the Yes, but… card, the speaker must change their way of speaking to stay on topic without bouncing the ball. Speak for Yourself – the listener shows this card when the partner uses phrases like “You always…”, “Because you are…”, “Change yourself,” etc. The speaker must change their way of speaking to talk about themselves and their feelings instead of generalizing or demanding specific behavior, e.g., instead of “You’re lazy,” say “I feel neglected.” Let Me Feel – the listener shows this card when their feelings are questioned by giving advice or explaining reality only with facts, e.g., “Why worry so much?”, “You’re oversensitive,” “What’s wrong? I spend time with you,” etc. The speaker must change their way of speaking and accept the other’s feelings as reality not to be denied. The core of the game is a joint conversation. Expectation cards help name the problem, and Special Cards help apply proper communication rules. Naming the problem accurately and expressing expectations in a non-judgmental, non-hurtful way are key to building trust and finding solutions.